Thursday, October 17, 2013

No matter how cynical I get, I just can't keep up 

So Emily Yoffe wrote an article warning young women that if they get falling-down drunk at a party they are risking being raped.
In one awful high-profile case after another—the U.S. Naval Academy; Steubenville, Ohio; now the allegations in Maryville, Mo.—we read about a young woman, sometimes only a girl, who goes to a party and ends up being raped. As soon as the school year begins, so do reports of female students sexually assaulted by their male classmates. A common denominator in these cases is alcohol, often copious amounts, enough to render the young woman incapacitated. But a misplaced fear of blaming the victim has made it somehow unacceptable to warn inexperienced young women that when they get wasted, they are putting themselves in potential peril...
Let’s be totally clear: Perpetrators are the ones responsible for committing their crimes, and they should be brought to justice. But we are failing to let women know that when they render themselves defenseless, terrible things can be done to them. Young women are getting a distorted message that their right to match men drink for drink is a feminist issue.
She is, of course, absolutely correct.
But apparently some people went bonkers at the implication that its a woman's own fault if she gets raped when she is drunk.
While others said, No, that's not what Yoffe meant at all.
There's an interesting divide in this conversation — it seems that the older people are, the more they “get” what Yoffe was trying to say.
I’m not sure myself whether Yoffe is right or wrong, but I’m older myself, and I totally get her point.
Maybe its just that us older types have reached a certain level of cynicism or maturity or whatever you want to call it.
Simply put, we stop believing that society will change to what we want it to be.   We lose our courage or our capacity for outrage or just our energy to keep fighting the good fight, and we stop trying to change our "rape culture" into a feminist culture.  We accept society as it is and just try to deal.
So from the younger perspective, the Jezebel readers, Yoffe is enabling rape culture and all its horrible and demeaning attitudes toward women. From the older perspective — dare I call it, the Nancy perspective? — not getting shitfaced drunk is just a common sense precaution.
We don’t tug on superman’s cape, we don’t spit into the wind, we don’t pull the mask off the old lone ranger and we don’t mess around with Jim.

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Having reached the old age of 64, I know it isn't smart to get drunk somewhere, other than home. Getting elblottoed maybe fun but you are defenseless, whether you are male or female. It is nto smart if you have to navigate through crowds, to use transportation services provided by strangers. You make yourself vunerable to getting mugged or murdered.

Yes, if you are female there is a bigger danger of getting raped if you are under the influence. That will never change. Men under the influence have a greater risk of being beaten up or robbed. If you are smart, you take care. That is not saying you are asking to be raped, robbed, beaten, murdered, etc. Those things are against the law, but there will always be those who take advantage of the defenseless.

You explain to your children not to play with fire, not to walk into the middle of traffic and you ought to tell your children not to get drunk out of their minds in a crowd of strangers.

Many of these incidents happen in the first week or month of young people starting university. Perhaps these facilities of higher learning might take some proactive measures and outlaw booze the first month of school.

By Anonymous e.a.f., at 6:08 pm  

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