Don’t succumb to the temptation of making your origin your destiny.Emphasis mine.
Don’t read too much into your childhood, either, for that matter, and whether your parents were or weren’t over the moon. Your parents decide whether you exist and whether they’ll do right by you, but they don’t get to decide whether you matter. That’s something every one of us, pampered or buffeted, gets to decide for ourselves.
Thursday, July 21, 2011
Carolyn Hax replies to a question about whether to tell the child that their parent didn't want the pregnancy: